By popular demand *lol*, the girls wanted me to do a blog about what guys with good intentions REALLY want from girls.
Again, these are NOT listed from most important to least. No one thing is more important then another so just soak in the information and use it to better yourself and the world around you.
1) They Don't Want You Drop Dead Sexy ALL The Time
Girls, one thing a good man can't STAND is having a girl who is high maintenance ALL THE TIME! And sometimes, its enough to make them want to run the opposite direction. A good man will actually be more attracted to a girl who lets her natural beauty show through then one that puts on TONS of make-up and over-accessorizes. And even a small handful rather have a girl who wears no make-up at all. Any guy who TELLS you, you have to be made up all the time or doesn't seem to want you when you aren't looking 100% is up to NO GOOD I tell you.
2) They Want A Girl Who Realizes That Being Together Doesn't Mean You Have To Be Together All The Time
I have many of my guy friends say they have left girls because they just didn't understand that they loved them but didn't want to be around them all the time. Being in a relationship with a guy doesn't give you the right to be around them all the time. Yea, I said it...JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T MEAN YOU GET TO BE AROUND THEM, NOR HAVE THE RIGHT, TO BE AROUND THEM ALL THE TIME.
Guys need their alone time. The time where they don't have to worry you and they can worry about themselves. Time to hang out with their friends, scratch their balls, and play video games ALL DAY LONG without worrying about what you think. Guys are looking for girls who understand this and realize that it isn't anything against you and won't freak out about it.
Trust me girls, having time apart from your guy only makes them love and want you more!
3) Guys Want Girls To Get Dirty With Them
No, I'm not talking about in the bed dirty. I'm talking about sitting on the couch all day without bathing or going out on a fishing trip with them and handling blood worms and dead fish. They want a girl who isn't afraid to get down in the dirt with them in the name of bonding. One of my guy friends said they knew they wanted to marry their wife when she went hunting with him, even though she told him once before that she HATED the great outdoors. She went, she didn't complain one bit, and they actually had tons of fun. Now, mind you, he did say she hasn't gone again since that day but he really appreciated what she did out of love for him.
4) They Want Girls Who Have Their Own Money/Girls Who Aren't Out To Use Them As Their Meal Ticket/Girls Who Are Independent
Good guys HATE girls who expect them to buy EVERYTHING! It is a BIG turn off for them. No, they aren't cheap. And no, they don't expect you to pay for everything on your dates. They want a girl who is independent, who isn't going to depend on them in the relationship to go places and do things. A girl is who going to work with them to make the most out of relationship and help move it forward.
They want a girl who will offer to pay for their share of the date when you paid for it the last two times. They want a girl who will pick up the DVDs and the take out for your planned night in together. A girl who doesn't expect them to pay for getting your nails done just because they did it once before. An independent woman is the sexiest woman in the world to a good man.
5) They Want A Girl Who Doesn't Want To Completely Change Them
Ok, girls, I know them smacking while they eat or leaving the toilet seat up can, and probably should, be changed but girls, him not minding being wrinkly every once in a while or not liking art or wanting to know anything about art are things that you shouldn't try to change. Good guys want a girl who will accept them as they are, not take him on because they want to give him an ambush make-over. Trust me, you show him that you love him with all his flaws and he'll WANT to change them along the way because he knows it gets under your skin. GOOD guys do that for girls who are worth it.
6) They Want A Girl Who Is Willing To Bend Themselves A Little Bit
Good guys want girls they can be with for the long run and having a girl who is willing to change themselves a little bit to be a better fit for them is a must. I'm not telling you guys to lower your standards or accepting way less then you deserve but come on, having standards like "must make 120k a year" or "must have straight teeth, perfect hair, and be able to tan " are just stupid.
If your guy likes spending the weekend at the track, don't be upset when he chooses to go there over coming to your house to spend the weekend, especially when you see him every day during the week. If the guy works on the 3 days that you have off, make plans one month to change your days off so you two can be off at the same time. Showing that you are willing to sacrifice to be their girl will make them want to give you all their heart and they will gladly return the favor 3 fold!
7) They HATE Girls Who Can't Get Over Things
Every good guy is looking for a girl who can forgive them when they make an honest mistake because, yes, even good guys mess up. They don't want a girl who is going to hold every single mistake and mishap over their head like a noose. Ok, he forgot that you guys had planned a date this Saturday. Don't stay mad with him for 2 or 3 weeks after he has said sorry and made it up to you by taking you out somewhere SUPER nice the very next night, completely on him. Holding a grudge over petty things will only keep you from finding a good guy or losing one.
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Monday, October 20, 2008
Romantic Tricks For Teenage Love
You know, it wasn't too long ago when I was 14 or 15 and I had my very first boyfriend! But I didn't have a job and we really couldn't go out anywhere sooo it was more of an in-school/hang out kind of thing. But him and I BOTH manage to find ways to keep things romantic in a "like you like you" way! These tips cost little to no money to do but speak VOLUMES to the object of your affection.
1) Love Notes Between Classes Is A "Class"ic
The most obvious tip I can EVER give a young couple in love is to write notes to one another! Now, not every note has to have you declaring your love for the person over and over again but just knowing that it came from your "hunnie" bunches of oats is enough to make you go "awwwwww".
Wanna add an extra twist of romance? Write a note on a special piece of paper or type it up on the computer with a few clipart pictures and a nice boarder to give it that extra "I took time out to do this for you because I like you like you" flare. You can even place a lipstick kiss on the bottom of the note or spray it a few times with your favorite cologne so they can have a sensory tie to the note with you.
2) Buy Something For Them That You Saw That You Thought They Would Like
My first boyfriend brought a magazine to school and gave it to me and said "I saw this while I was grocery shopping with Mom and knew you would like it. I remember you saying you were into things like this." I went even more head over heels for him!
When you see things out and about or even in your house that you KNOW your hunnie will like, buy it and give it to them. They will LOVE that you were actually listening to them and receiving a gift, no matter how big or small it is, is always romantic.
3) Show Up To Their House And Help Them Study For That Big Test
I know some of you are saying, "That isn't romantic at all!" But trrruuusstt me, your hunnie will think it was the sweetest and most loving thing you could ever do for them.
If they have a big test the next day and have to get some major studying done, do some quick planning and help them out. Show up to their house with flash cards of facts they need to know for the test or come up with a game that for every question they answer correctly, they get a kiss on the cheek or lips. You guys will have fun, get to spend time together, you will show your hunnie that you care about them enough to help them grow, and further your education! What more can you ask for?
4) Make A Reservation To A Restaurant On A Busy Night
I doesn't have to be a fancy french restaurant but something as simple as your local Pizza Hut or Friday's. Making a reservation on a busy night of the week will show your hunnie that you are willing to plan ahead for them, and that's really romantic and sincere. It's especially overwhelming for them when you don't tell them that you have the reservation and show up to the place.
Your hunnie will see the long line and say to you, "We'll never be able to get in and make curfew" or something along those lines. That's when you put a huge smile on your face, march right up to the host/hostess with them and say, "Hi, yes, my name is ____________ and I called in a reservation for tonight earlier this week. Is our table ready?" The host/hostess will say, "Ahhhh yes, we got your table all set up and waiting for you right now. Right this way!"
At this point and time, please note the look on your hunnie's face. You will see that you just scored HUGE brownie points with them and feel good about yourself!
5) Write Them An Actual Letter, You Know, The Kind You Get In The Mail
This is similar to Tip #1 but this is more of the time when you should declare your love for them after you guys have been going steady for a while. Receiving an actual letter in the mail will surprise your hunnie and make them feel extra warm and gooey on the inside. I bet you will be getting a call over the phone with them basically screaming with joy how much they love it and how wonderful you are!
6) Don't Rush Saying The "L" Word
I've noticed alot as I've gotten older that kids get together and say, "I Love You" even before the first date. You shouldn't say this word unless you 100% mean it!
Saying "I Love You" too soon throws the whole relationship off from day 1 and there will be no where to really build from later on down the road. In my personal opinion, the "L" word shouldn't be dropped until at least 3-5 months of steady relationship status. But that's just me.
With these tips under your belt, you can find TONS of other things to do to make things a bit interesting in your teenage love affairs. Remember, all relationships are different so these tips are just basic guidelines for you to create your own version!
1) Love Notes Between Classes Is A "Class"ic
The most obvious tip I can EVER give a young couple in love is to write notes to one another! Now, not every note has to have you declaring your love for the person over and over again but just knowing that it came from your "hunnie" bunches of oats is enough to make you go "awwwwww".
Wanna add an extra twist of romance? Write a note on a special piece of paper or type it up on the computer with a few clipart pictures and a nice boarder to give it that extra "I took time out to do this for you because I like you like you" flare. You can even place a lipstick kiss on the bottom of the note or spray it a few times with your favorite cologne so they can have a sensory tie to the note with you.
2) Buy Something For Them That You Saw That You Thought They Would Like
My first boyfriend brought a magazine to school and gave it to me and said "I saw this while I was grocery shopping with Mom and knew you would like it. I remember you saying you were into things like this." I went even more head over heels for him!
When you see things out and about or even in your house that you KNOW your hunnie will like, buy it and give it to them. They will LOVE that you were actually listening to them and receiving a gift, no matter how big or small it is, is always romantic.
3) Show Up To Their House And Help Them Study For That Big Test
I know some of you are saying, "That isn't romantic at all!" But trrruuusstt me, your hunnie will think it was the sweetest and most loving thing you could ever do for them.
If they have a big test the next day and have to get some major studying done, do some quick planning and help them out. Show up to their house with flash cards of facts they need to know for the test or come up with a game that for every question they answer correctly, they get a kiss on the cheek or lips. You guys will have fun, get to spend time together, you will show your hunnie that you care about them enough to help them grow, and further your education! What more can you ask for?
4) Make A Reservation To A Restaurant On A Busy Night
I doesn't have to be a fancy french restaurant but something as simple as your local Pizza Hut or Friday's. Making a reservation on a busy night of the week will show your hunnie that you are willing to plan ahead for them, and that's really romantic and sincere. It's especially overwhelming for them when you don't tell them that you have the reservation and show up to the place.
Your hunnie will see the long line and say to you, "We'll never be able to get in and make curfew" or something along those lines. That's when you put a huge smile on your face, march right up to the host/hostess with them and say, "Hi, yes, my name is ____________ and I called in a reservation for tonight earlier this week. Is our table ready?" The host/hostess will say, "Ahhhh yes, we got your table all set up and waiting for you right now. Right this way!"
At this point and time, please note the look on your hunnie's face. You will see that you just scored HUGE brownie points with them and feel good about yourself!
5) Write Them An Actual Letter, You Know, The Kind You Get In The Mail
This is similar to Tip #1 but this is more of the time when you should declare your love for them after you guys have been going steady for a while. Receiving an actual letter in the mail will surprise your hunnie and make them feel extra warm and gooey on the inside. I bet you will be getting a call over the phone with them basically screaming with joy how much they love it and how wonderful you are!
6) Don't Rush Saying The "L" Word
I've noticed alot as I've gotten older that kids get together and say, "I Love You" even before the first date. You shouldn't say this word unless you 100% mean it!
Saying "I Love You" too soon throws the whole relationship off from day 1 and there will be no where to really build from later on down the road. In my personal opinion, the "L" word shouldn't be dropped until at least 3-5 months of steady relationship status. But that's just me.
With these tips under your belt, you can find TONS of other things to do to make things a bit interesting in your teenage love affairs. Remember, all relationships are different so these tips are just basic guidelines for you to create your own version!
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