By popular demand *lol*, the girls wanted me to do a blog about what guys with good intentions REALLY want from girls.
Again, these are NOT listed from most important to least. No one thing is more important then another so just soak in the information and use it to better yourself and the world around you.
1) They Don't Want You Drop Dead Sexy ALL The Time
Girls, one thing a good man can't STAND is having a girl who is high maintenance ALL THE TIME! And sometimes, its enough to make them want to run the opposite direction. A good man will actually be more attracted to a girl who lets her natural beauty show through then one that puts on TONS of make-up and over-accessorizes. And even a small handful rather have a girl who wears no make-up at all. Any guy who TELLS you, you have to be made up all the time or doesn't seem to want you when you aren't looking 100% is up to NO GOOD I tell you.
2) They Want A Girl Who Realizes That Being Together Doesn't Mean You Have To Be Together All The Time
I have many of my guy friends say they have left girls because they just didn't understand that they loved them but didn't want to be around them all the time. Being in a relationship with a guy doesn't give you the right to be around them all the time. Yea, I said it...JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T MEAN YOU GET TO BE AROUND THEM, NOR HAVE THE RIGHT, TO BE AROUND THEM ALL THE TIME.
Guys need their alone time. The time where they don't have to worry you and they can worry about themselves. Time to hang out with their friends, scratch their balls, and play video games ALL DAY LONG without worrying about what you think. Guys are looking for girls who understand this and realize that it isn't anything against you and won't freak out about it.
Trust me girls, having time apart from your guy only makes them love and want you more!
3) Guys Want Girls To Get Dirty With Them
No, I'm not talking about in the bed dirty. I'm talking about sitting on the couch all day without bathing or going out on a fishing trip with them and handling blood worms and dead fish. They want a girl who isn't afraid to get down in the dirt with them in the name of bonding. One of my guy friends said they knew they wanted to marry their wife when she went hunting with him, even though she told him once before that she HATED the great outdoors. She went, she didn't complain one bit, and they actually had tons of fun. Now, mind you, he did say she hasn't gone again since that day but he really appreciated what she did out of love for him.
4) They Want Girls Who Have Their Own Money/Girls Who Aren't Out To Use Them As Their Meal Ticket/Girls Who Are Independent
Good guys HATE girls who expect them to buy EVERYTHING! It is a BIG turn off for them. No, they aren't cheap. And no, they don't expect you to pay for everything on your dates. They want a girl who is independent, who isn't going to depend on them in the relationship to go places and do things. A girl is who going to work with them to make the most out of relationship and help move it forward.
They want a girl who will offer to pay for their share of the date when you paid for it the last two times. They want a girl who will pick up the DVDs and the take out for your planned night in together. A girl who doesn't expect them to pay for getting your nails done just because they did it once before. An independent woman is the sexiest woman in the world to a good man.
5) They Want A Girl Who Doesn't Want To Completely Change Them
Ok, girls, I know them smacking while they eat or leaving the toilet seat up can, and probably should, be changed but girls, him not minding being wrinkly every once in a while or not liking art or wanting to know anything about art are things that you shouldn't try to change. Good guys want a girl who will accept them as they are, not take him on because they want to give him an ambush make-over. Trust me, you show him that you love him with all his flaws and he'll WANT to change them along the way because he knows it gets under your skin. GOOD guys do that for girls who are worth it.
6) They Want A Girl Who Is Willing To Bend Themselves A Little Bit
Good guys want girls they can be with for the long run and having a girl who is willing to change themselves a little bit to be a better fit for them is a must. I'm not telling you guys to lower your standards or accepting way less then you deserve but come on, having standards like "must make 120k a year" or "must have straight teeth, perfect hair, and be able to tan " are just stupid.
If your guy likes spending the weekend at the track, don't be upset when he chooses to go there over coming to your house to spend the weekend, especially when you see him every day during the week. If the guy works on the 3 days that you have off, make plans one month to change your days off so you two can be off at the same time. Showing that you are willing to sacrifice to be their girl will make them want to give you all their heart and they will gladly return the favor 3 fold!
7) They HATE Girls Who Can't Get Over Things
Every good guy is looking for a girl who can forgive them when they make an honest mistake because, yes, even good guys mess up. They don't want a girl who is going to hold every single mistake and mishap over their head like a noose. Ok, he forgot that you guys had planned a date this Saturday. Don't stay mad with him for 2 or 3 weeks after he has said sorry and made it up to you by taking you out somewhere SUPER nice the very next night, completely on him. Holding a grudge over petty things will only keep you from finding a good guy or losing one.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Simple "Impress Your Lover" Recipe #1: Pasta With Savory Meat Sauce
This is the first of MANY recipes I'll be posting that anybody with an IQ of -35 can do when they want to bring their hunnie over for dinner. These recipes are delicious and super simple that there is NO WAY you can mess it up.
Pasta With Savory Meat Sauce
Items Needed:
1 - Medium sized onion (NO RED)
1 - Medium sized GREEN pepper
1 - Pack of hamburger around 2 pounds (you can pick any kind, I prefer "chuck" because of the fat content)
1 - Large OR 2 - Regular sized jars of pasta sauce (AVOID "plain" or "traditional" flavors, I would suggest going for something with a mild, but not overwhelming flavor like "Mushroom", "Garden Variety", or "Four Cheese", best brands are Prego, Ragu, or Great Value/Wal-Mart brand)
1 - 16 ounce box of pasta (Angel Hair is what I prefer but you can use whatever pasta you deem fit)
1 - Cooking pan to brown your hamburger in
1 - Pot to boil your pasta in
1 - Pot to shimmer your sauce in
1 - Bowl (to put your onion and pepper in)
1 - Strainer (or something you can seperate your pasta from the water with, you can also slowly drain the water from the pot by using the lid to hold back the pasta while you tilt the pan over)
- Butter OR Olive Oil (OR Whatever you use to grease your cooking pan)
- "Italian" Seasoning
- Seasoned Meat Tenderizer
- "Garlic & Pepper" Seasoning
- Salt (For seasoning your water ONLY)
- Parmesan Cheese (to sparkle on top when you are ready to eat it)
Directions:
1) Cut your onion and pepper up so that there are no pieces bigger than a half an inch/your pinkie finger's nail. Place in bowl.
2) In your cooking pan, put the pan on high heat and melt your butter. Once the pan is hot enough (which you can check by wetting hand lightly and shaking the water off into the pan, if it sizzles when the water hits, it's hot enough), add your pepper and onion. Turn the stove down to medium heat and let them cook until the onions are a medium brown color. Remove from the pan and place to the side for later. NOTE: You have to watch the pan closely! The pepper and onions can burn easily if left unmoved for 6-8 minutes.
3) With the stove still on medium heat, add your hamburger to the pan (the pan should still be well greased from the peppers and onions PLUS hamburger makes its own juices). Season your meat with the Meat Tenderizer, Garlic & Pepper, and Italian seasoning. (DO NOT use salt to season your hamburger. Trust me on this one! There will be enough salt in the sauce and in the seasonings you used to give it a good taste.) Cook the meat until it is brown and thoroughly broken up.
4) Place the browned meat, peppers, onions, and pasta sauce into a pot and set the stove for medium-low heat. Add a little extra Italian seasoning and mix until well stirred. Cover and let cook for roughly 45 minutes, stirring it about every 10 minutes. If you notice that the hamburger is sticking to the bottom of the pot, turn the heat down a little more.
5) Fill your other pot with water and set the stove on high heat. Add a few teaspoons of salt to the water and cover. Bring the water to a boiling point, making sure that it has been boiling for 5 minutes. Add your pasta and cook it for the time directed on the box. Remove from pot using the strainer.
Ending Notes And Tips:
- Freshly cooked pasta has the best flavor so don't cook your pasta until your date has arrived. They will love seeing you in action in the kitchen!
- The dish is best served with a light salad and a hearty bread (garlic bread is always a classic)
- The PERFECT dessert to match with this meal is warm apple pie a la mode/with ice-cream on top, which you can pick up fresh and already made from your local Wal-Mart or grocery store
- The sauce is sooo simple and flavorful that you can cook it up to 24 hours before your date arrives. Just leave it out on the stove when you're done (or if you are going to make it over 8 hours in advance, put it in the fridge), when your date arrives, you can re-warm it up on the stove while you cook the pasta!
- Red wine is the best drink to pair with this meal. Not into booze? No problem, pick up a bottle of sparkling grape juice or apple cider. Make sure to chill it in the fridge 24 hours before your date though. DO NOT freeze it!
Pasta With Savory Meat Sauce
Items Needed:
1 - Medium sized onion (NO RED)
1 - Medium sized GREEN pepper
1 - Pack of hamburger around 2 pounds (you can pick any kind, I prefer "chuck" because of the fat content)
1 - Large OR 2 - Regular sized jars of pasta sauce (AVOID "plain" or "traditional" flavors, I would suggest going for something with a mild, but not overwhelming flavor like "Mushroom", "Garden Variety", or "Four Cheese", best brands are Prego, Ragu, or Great Value/Wal-Mart brand)
1 - 16 ounce box of pasta (Angel Hair is what I prefer but you can use whatever pasta you deem fit)
1 - Cooking pan to brown your hamburger in
1 - Pot to boil your pasta in
1 - Pot to shimmer your sauce in
1 - Bowl (to put your onion and pepper in)
1 - Strainer (or something you can seperate your pasta from the water with, you can also slowly drain the water from the pot by using the lid to hold back the pasta while you tilt the pan over)
- Butter OR Olive Oil (OR Whatever you use to grease your cooking pan)
- "Italian" Seasoning
- Seasoned Meat Tenderizer
- "Garlic & Pepper" Seasoning
- Salt (For seasoning your water ONLY)
- Parmesan Cheese (to sparkle on top when you are ready to eat it)
Directions:
1) Cut your onion and pepper up so that there are no pieces bigger than a half an inch/your pinkie finger's nail. Place in bowl.
2) In your cooking pan, put the pan on high heat and melt your butter. Once the pan is hot enough (which you can check by wetting hand lightly and shaking the water off into the pan, if it sizzles when the water hits, it's hot enough), add your pepper and onion. Turn the stove down to medium heat and let them cook until the onions are a medium brown color. Remove from the pan and place to the side for later. NOTE: You have to watch the pan closely! The pepper and onions can burn easily if left unmoved for 6-8 minutes.
3) With the stove still on medium heat, add your hamburger to the pan (the pan should still be well greased from the peppers and onions PLUS hamburger makes its own juices). Season your meat with the Meat Tenderizer, Garlic & Pepper, and Italian seasoning. (DO NOT use salt to season your hamburger. Trust me on this one! There will be enough salt in the sauce and in the seasonings you used to give it a good taste.) Cook the meat until it is brown and thoroughly broken up.
4) Place the browned meat, peppers, onions, and pasta sauce into a pot and set the stove for medium-low heat. Add a little extra Italian seasoning and mix until well stirred. Cover and let cook for roughly 45 minutes, stirring it about every 10 minutes. If you notice that the hamburger is sticking to the bottom of the pot, turn the heat down a little more.
5) Fill your other pot with water and set the stove on high heat. Add a few teaspoons of salt to the water and cover. Bring the water to a boiling point, making sure that it has been boiling for 5 minutes. Add your pasta and cook it for the time directed on the box. Remove from pot using the strainer.
Ending Notes And Tips:
- Freshly cooked pasta has the best flavor so don't cook your pasta until your date has arrived. They will love seeing you in action in the kitchen!
- The dish is best served with a light salad and a hearty bread (garlic bread is always a classic)
- The PERFECT dessert to match with this meal is warm apple pie a la mode/with ice-cream on top, which you can pick up fresh and already made from your local Wal-Mart or grocery store
- The sauce is sooo simple and flavorful that you can cook it up to 24 hours before your date arrives. Just leave it out on the stove when you're done (or if you are going to make it over 8 hours in advance, put it in the fridge), when your date arrives, you can re-warm it up on the stove while you cook the pasta!
- Red wine is the best drink to pair with this meal. Not into booze? No problem, pick up a bottle of sparkling grape juice or apple cider. Make sure to chill it in the fridge 24 hours before your date though. DO NOT freeze it!
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Traits That Every "Good" Girl Wants In Their Man...
This was requested from one of my guy friends on MySpace last night and I told them I would do this as soon as I woke up. So here I am! *lol*
This is a list of things that GOOD girls want from the men in their life. When I say "good" I mean girls who have good intentions. I won't deny that there are ALOT of bitches out there just trying to screw what good guys are left out of their time and money. I HATE girls like that! Giving us good girls a bad fucking name!
Anyway, this list is not in order from most important to least so no one thing is more important then the next. I hope this helps my friend, and other guys, out.
1) We Don't Expect Our Guys To Be Rich And Loaded.
We are completely and totally happy with you working at McDonald's or Wal-Mart as long as you take care of your bills and try to push yourself forward in life. A good girl will NEVER judge you by how big your wallet is...now, if you don't have a job, that's a different story but as long as we see you trying to find one and doing things to help out (clean, wash, etc) where ever you live, we will be content with you and try to help you find something better!
2) We Love A Guy Who Is Actually Thoughtful!
You know, you bring us a magazine because you remember us saying we liked it or you make a CD of our favorite music so we can listen to it on the way to work. Being thoughtful is the most romantic thing you can do for us and it makes us feel very loved.
3) Actually Listen To Us!
You know, not all girls are naive enough to think that just because a guy is staring at us means he's listening, especially a good girl. You know, when we are having a discussion, actually put in your 2 cents, we want to hear it, even if it is something as simple as a yes, no, or maybe so! If you overhear me say that I'm thinking about moving my room around, actually respond to it and say, "Well I think it would look good this way" or "I think its fine just the way it is". Listen to us and actually show us that you heard us, I promise any good girl will want to love up on you some more when they see it!
4) DON'T Lie To Us!
I know guys, you feel that sometimes you just have to lie so you won't get in trouble but, new flash, if you have a good girl, they are going to love that you can be honest with them. We don't care how much what you said hurt our feelings, we might cry about it at first or be mad about it for days but we will have a whole another level of love for you because you were man enough to tell the truth. So next time we ask your honest opinion, give it to us.
5) Make Us Feel Wanted In Other Way Then Sex!
Guys now a days generally forget that there is more to making a woman feel wanted then screwing her brains out. If all you take time out with her to do is sex then she's going to wind up feeling like a piece of meat. You know, actually take time out to make out with us without trying to push it to sex. When you see us cleaning the dishes, come up behind up us and place a kiss on the back of our neck. When we are out in public, pull us close and act like you don't want to let us go. Those moments right there can make us feel more wanted and sexier then actually doing the wild thing.
6) Encourage Us Not To Be So "Girlie"!
Guys, I know you hate it when we take hours in the bathroom getting ready to go out just to pick something up to eat and come back so why not encouage us to loosen up a bit. Actually tell us we look cute when we just rolled out of bed or that we look just fine in our sleep pants. You know, when we burp, don't look at us like we commited the sin of all sins. Show us that it is ok to be just as low maintence as you are about things. It works in your favor in the end.
7) Take Part In The Shopping Process!
I can not tell you how ANNOYING it is when your guy doesn't want to come into a shop with you because it's too girlie. The reason why we are going in there is so we can pick up some things to make ourselves hott for you so why not take part of the process. Any good girl will really appericate it and most likely go into those "guys only" stores to return the favor. We join seeing what you like and we like showing you what we like!
8) Don't Be Afraid To Talk About The Future!
Most guys hear about a girl talking about the future with them and cringe. Please don't...we don't want a guy around who isn't thinking about where they want to us with us. A good girl won't try to rush anything along but we like being able to talk with our guy seriously as to where they see the relationship going and where they want it to lead. It's a nice feeling to know that our guy is committed to us for the long haul.
9) Don't Act Different Towards Us When You Are Around Your Friends!
Us good girls HATE it when you don't really want to bother with us when you are around your friends. I mean, we understand that you don't want to call us by my nick names or want to be too lovey dovey on us but pulling a complete 180 on us is just plain rude! Have your hand in our back pocket or include us in the conversation you are having. Actually make plans to take us with you as you hang out with the guys. We want to see you in your natural environment and we want to become part of it but acting like a complete jerk for the sake of "looking hard for your homies" just isn't going to fly.
And that's it. These points listed above are the basics of what any good girl wants from her man. Showing these traits will leave us swooning and wanting you more then anything else in the world! Some of these things even have a more secret meaning behind them but that translation is for another blog at another time.
Enjoy and Subscribe!
This is a list of things that GOOD girls want from the men in their life. When I say "good" I mean girls who have good intentions. I won't deny that there are ALOT of bitches out there just trying to screw what good guys are left out of their time and money. I HATE girls like that! Giving us good girls a bad fucking name!
Anyway, this list is not in order from most important to least so no one thing is more important then the next. I hope this helps my friend, and other guys, out.
1) We Don't Expect Our Guys To Be Rich And Loaded.
We are completely and totally happy with you working at McDonald's or Wal-Mart as long as you take care of your bills and try to push yourself forward in life. A good girl will NEVER judge you by how big your wallet is...now, if you don't have a job, that's a different story but as long as we see you trying to find one and doing things to help out (clean, wash, etc) where ever you live, we will be content with you and try to help you find something better!
2) We Love A Guy Who Is Actually Thoughtful!
You know, you bring us a magazine because you remember us saying we liked it or you make a CD of our favorite music so we can listen to it on the way to work. Being thoughtful is the most romantic thing you can do for us and it makes us feel very loved.
3) Actually Listen To Us!
You know, not all girls are naive enough to think that just because a guy is staring at us means he's listening, especially a good girl. You know, when we are having a discussion, actually put in your 2 cents, we want to hear it, even if it is something as simple as a yes, no, or maybe so! If you overhear me say that I'm thinking about moving my room around, actually respond to it and say, "Well I think it would look good this way" or "I think its fine just the way it is". Listen to us and actually show us that you heard us, I promise any good girl will want to love up on you some more when they see it!
4) DON'T Lie To Us!
I know guys, you feel that sometimes you just have to lie so you won't get in trouble but, new flash, if you have a good girl, they are going to love that you can be honest with them. We don't care how much what you said hurt our feelings, we might cry about it at first or be mad about it for days but we will have a whole another level of love for you because you were man enough to tell the truth. So next time we ask your honest opinion, give it to us.
5) Make Us Feel Wanted In Other Way Then Sex!
Guys now a days generally forget that there is more to making a woman feel wanted then screwing her brains out. If all you take time out with her to do is sex then she's going to wind up feeling like a piece of meat. You know, actually take time out to make out with us without trying to push it to sex. When you see us cleaning the dishes, come up behind up us and place a kiss on the back of our neck. When we are out in public, pull us close and act like you don't want to let us go. Those moments right there can make us feel more wanted and sexier then actually doing the wild thing.
6) Encourage Us Not To Be So "Girlie"!
Guys, I know you hate it when we take hours in the bathroom getting ready to go out just to pick something up to eat and come back so why not encouage us to loosen up a bit. Actually tell us we look cute when we just rolled out of bed or that we look just fine in our sleep pants. You know, when we burp, don't look at us like we commited the sin of all sins. Show us that it is ok to be just as low maintence as you are about things. It works in your favor in the end.
7) Take Part In The Shopping Process!
I can not tell you how ANNOYING it is when your guy doesn't want to come into a shop with you because it's too girlie. The reason why we are going in there is so we can pick up some things to make ourselves hott for you so why not take part of the process. Any good girl will really appericate it and most likely go into those "guys only" stores to return the favor. We join seeing what you like and we like showing you what we like!
8) Don't Be Afraid To Talk About The Future!
Most guys hear about a girl talking about the future with them and cringe. Please don't...we don't want a guy around who isn't thinking about where they want to us with us. A good girl won't try to rush anything along but we like being able to talk with our guy seriously as to where they see the relationship going and where they want it to lead. It's a nice feeling to know that our guy is committed to us for the long haul.
9) Don't Act Different Towards Us When You Are Around Your Friends!
Us good girls HATE it when you don't really want to bother with us when you are around your friends. I mean, we understand that you don't want to call us by my nick names or want to be too lovey dovey on us but pulling a complete 180 on us is just plain rude! Have your hand in our back pocket or include us in the conversation you are having. Actually make plans to take us with you as you hang out with the guys. We want to see you in your natural environment and we want to become part of it but acting like a complete jerk for the sake of "looking hard for your homies" just isn't going to fly.
And that's it. These points listed above are the basics of what any good girl wants from her man. Showing these traits will leave us swooning and wanting you more then anything else in the world! Some of these things even have a more secret meaning behind them but that translation is for another blog at another time.
Enjoy and Subscribe!
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
GREAT Ways To Make Her Feel Special
1 . Tell her she is beautiful (not fine, or sexy)
2 . Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
3 . Kiss her on the forehead.
4 . Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
5 . When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
6 . Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
7 . Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
8 . Write her notes. (she loves them)
9 . Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.
10 . Play with her hair.
11 . Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.
12 . Sit in the park and just talk to her.
13 . Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, or just tell her jokes.
14 . Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15 . If she's mad at you, kiss her.
16 . Give her piggyback rides.
17 . Bring her flowers
18 . Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
19 . Look her in the eyes and smile.
20 . Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
21 . Kiss her in the rain.
22 . If your in love with her . . . tell her.
2 . Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
3 . Kiss her on the forehead.
4 . Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
5 . When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
6 . Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
7 . Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
8 . Write her notes. (she loves them)
9 . Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.
10 . Play with her hair.
11 . Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.
12 . Sit in the park and just talk to her.
13 . Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, or just tell her jokes.
14 . Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15 . If she's mad at you, kiss her.
16 . Give her piggyback rides.
17 . Bring her flowers
18 . Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
19 . Look her in the eyes and smile.
20 . Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
21 . Kiss her in the rain.
22 . If your in love with her . . . tell her.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Romantic Tricks For Teenage Love
You know, it wasn't too long ago when I was 14 or 15 and I had my very first boyfriend! But I didn't have a job and we really couldn't go out anywhere sooo it was more of an in-school/hang out kind of thing. But him and I BOTH manage to find ways to keep things romantic in a "like you like you" way! These tips cost little to no money to do but speak VOLUMES to the object of your affection.
1) Love Notes Between Classes Is A "Class"ic
The most obvious tip I can EVER give a young couple in love is to write notes to one another! Now, not every note has to have you declaring your love for the person over and over again but just knowing that it came from your "hunnie" bunches of oats is enough to make you go "awwwwww".
Wanna add an extra twist of romance? Write a note on a special piece of paper or type it up on the computer with a few clipart pictures and a nice boarder to give it that extra "I took time out to do this for you because I like you like you" flare. You can even place a lipstick kiss on the bottom of the note or spray it a few times with your favorite cologne so they can have a sensory tie to the note with you.
2) Buy Something For Them That You Saw That You Thought They Would Like
My first boyfriend brought a magazine to school and gave it to me and said "I saw this while I was grocery shopping with Mom and knew you would like it. I remember you saying you were into things like this." I went even more head over heels for him!
When you see things out and about or even in your house that you KNOW your hunnie will like, buy it and give it to them. They will LOVE that you were actually listening to them and receiving a gift, no matter how big or small it is, is always romantic.
3) Show Up To Their House And Help Them Study For That Big Test
I know some of you are saying, "That isn't romantic at all!" But trrruuusstt me, your hunnie will think it was the sweetest and most loving thing you could ever do for them.
If they have a big test the next day and have to get some major studying done, do some quick planning and help them out. Show up to their house with flash cards of facts they need to know for the test or come up with a game that for every question they answer correctly, they get a kiss on the cheek or lips. You guys will have fun, get to spend time together, you will show your hunnie that you care about them enough to help them grow, and further your education! What more can you ask for?
4) Make A Reservation To A Restaurant On A Busy Night
I doesn't have to be a fancy french restaurant but something as simple as your local Pizza Hut or Friday's. Making a reservation on a busy night of the week will show your hunnie that you are willing to plan ahead for them, and that's really romantic and sincere. It's especially overwhelming for them when you don't tell them that you have the reservation and show up to the place.
Your hunnie will see the long line and say to you, "We'll never be able to get in and make curfew" or something along those lines. That's when you put a huge smile on your face, march right up to the host/hostess with them and say, "Hi, yes, my name is ____________ and I called in a reservation for tonight earlier this week. Is our table ready?" The host/hostess will say, "Ahhhh yes, we got your table all set up and waiting for you right now. Right this way!"
At this point and time, please note the look on your hunnie's face. You will see that you just scored HUGE brownie points with them and feel good about yourself!
5) Write Them An Actual Letter, You Know, The Kind You Get In The Mail
This is similar to Tip #1 but this is more of the time when you should declare your love for them after you guys have been going steady for a while. Receiving an actual letter in the mail will surprise your hunnie and make them feel extra warm and gooey on the inside. I bet you will be getting a call over the phone with them basically screaming with joy how much they love it and how wonderful you are!
6) Don't Rush Saying The "L" Word
I've noticed alot as I've gotten older that kids get together and say, "I Love You" even before the first date. You shouldn't say this word unless you 100% mean it!
Saying "I Love You" too soon throws the whole relationship off from day 1 and there will be no where to really build from later on down the road. In my personal opinion, the "L" word shouldn't be dropped until at least 3-5 months of steady relationship status. But that's just me.
With these tips under your belt, you can find TONS of other things to do to make things a bit interesting in your teenage love affairs. Remember, all relationships are different so these tips are just basic guidelines for you to create your own version!
1) Love Notes Between Classes Is A "Class"ic
The most obvious tip I can EVER give a young couple in love is to write notes to one another! Now, not every note has to have you declaring your love for the person over and over again but just knowing that it came from your "hunnie" bunches of oats is enough to make you go "awwwwww".
Wanna add an extra twist of romance? Write a note on a special piece of paper or type it up on the computer with a few clipart pictures and a nice boarder to give it that extra "I took time out to do this for you because I like you like you" flare. You can even place a lipstick kiss on the bottom of the note or spray it a few times with your favorite cologne so they can have a sensory tie to the note with you.
2) Buy Something For Them That You Saw That You Thought They Would Like
My first boyfriend brought a magazine to school and gave it to me and said "I saw this while I was grocery shopping with Mom and knew you would like it. I remember you saying you were into things like this." I went even more head over heels for him!
When you see things out and about or even in your house that you KNOW your hunnie will like, buy it and give it to them. They will LOVE that you were actually listening to them and receiving a gift, no matter how big or small it is, is always romantic.
3) Show Up To Their House And Help Them Study For That Big Test
I know some of you are saying, "That isn't romantic at all!" But trrruuusstt me, your hunnie will think it was the sweetest and most loving thing you could ever do for them.
If they have a big test the next day and have to get some major studying done, do some quick planning and help them out. Show up to their house with flash cards of facts they need to know for the test or come up with a game that for every question they answer correctly, they get a kiss on the cheek or lips. You guys will have fun, get to spend time together, you will show your hunnie that you care about them enough to help them grow, and further your education! What more can you ask for?
4) Make A Reservation To A Restaurant On A Busy Night
I doesn't have to be a fancy french restaurant but something as simple as your local Pizza Hut or Friday's. Making a reservation on a busy night of the week will show your hunnie that you are willing to plan ahead for them, and that's really romantic and sincere. It's especially overwhelming for them when you don't tell them that you have the reservation and show up to the place.
Your hunnie will see the long line and say to you, "We'll never be able to get in and make curfew" or something along those lines. That's when you put a huge smile on your face, march right up to the host/hostess with them and say, "Hi, yes, my name is ____________ and I called in a reservation for tonight earlier this week. Is our table ready?" The host/hostess will say, "Ahhhh yes, we got your table all set up and waiting for you right now. Right this way!"
At this point and time, please note the look on your hunnie's face. You will see that you just scored HUGE brownie points with them and feel good about yourself!
5) Write Them An Actual Letter, You Know, The Kind You Get In The Mail
This is similar to Tip #1 but this is more of the time when you should declare your love for them after you guys have been going steady for a while. Receiving an actual letter in the mail will surprise your hunnie and make them feel extra warm and gooey on the inside. I bet you will be getting a call over the phone with them basically screaming with joy how much they love it and how wonderful you are!
6) Don't Rush Saying The "L" Word
I've noticed alot as I've gotten older that kids get together and say, "I Love You" even before the first date. You shouldn't say this word unless you 100% mean it!
Saying "I Love You" too soon throws the whole relationship off from day 1 and there will be no where to really build from later on down the road. In my personal opinion, the "L" word shouldn't be dropped until at least 3-5 months of steady relationship status. But that's just me.
With these tips under your belt, you can find TONS of other things to do to make things a bit interesting in your teenage love affairs. Remember, all relationships are different so these tips are just basic guidelines for you to create your own version!
Saturday, October 18, 2008
What I Believe About Lovers And Being Single... - A Personal Blog
"It's Better To Be Unhappy Alone Than Unhappy With Someone..." - Marilyn Monroe
I would rather be unhappy by myself then uphappy with somebody any day! I know alot of you are thinking, "Yea right...you scream all the time that you wish you had somebody to love." and yes, I DO wish I had somebody to love on BUT...
I would never EVER be with ANYBODY for the sake of being with somebody. I have more respect for myself then to just fling myself on the first person who will have me.
I don't care how sexy they are, what kind of car they drive, how long I've been with them, or how much money they have. If they aren't making me happy and I don't think we can work out, I will pack up my things and leave them reeeeaaaallll quick.
Life is too short to sell yourself short of what you really want and who you think really deserves to be with you. You should let NO ONE make you unhappy if you don't have to. I never understood that...why people stick around with somebody when it is obvious that you don't want to be with them anymore?
Are people that afraid of change that they'll stick with someone familiar just because they don't want to go out and try to find someone else? I mean...you'll literally put up with someone's crap just because they're "alright" to be with 1/4th of the time?
You're wasting precious time people! You aren't promised to wake up tomorrow morning. You might be 21 now but one morning you might wake up and realize you're 43 and spent most of your time under someone who doesn't really want you...
I'm 22 years old. I have my whole life ahead of me, hopefully. I cry myself to sleep at night cuddled into my pillow. I daydream most the day away thinking about how it would be to have somebody in my life again. I read Cosmopolitan magazines so I can stock up on sex tricks to use on my future somebody. And, in a nutshell, I am unhappy about being single. But...
I would never short change myself when it comes down to someone wanting to be my boyfriend. I'm not going to jump all over somebody just because they ask me out. I've made alot of mistakes in the past about who I gave my body up to because I really felt that I didn't deserve anybody. I even gave up the man I love most in life to someone else, on purpose, because I felt that I wasn't good enough for them.
I didn't feel like I was the right color, the right height, or the right weight to love them so I pushed him into the arms of another. And guess what...I regretted it EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE SINCE THAT DAY! So when the next one comes around, or if the old one decides to take me on, I'm going to make damn sure that I'm happy and that they are too!
Life is too short to be anything less then happy...I've wasted 20 1/2 years of my life being utterly unhappy and down on myself. Things aren't perfect for me yet but I'm seeing my future a whole lot clear-er then I ever did before I left for Texas. I'm NOT going to let myself down this time around!
And neither should anyone else who reads this...
So if you've taken the time to read this whole blog, please, sit down with yourself and really think about your relationship. Think about why you're with them and how things are. And don't kid yourself...if you can't say with a smile 90% of the time that you are happy to be with them...then maybe its time you need to start thinking about why you are so unhappy and if you need to get up out there.
Think about it...
I would rather be unhappy by myself then uphappy with somebody any day! I know alot of you are thinking, "Yea right...you scream all the time that you wish you had somebody to love." and yes, I DO wish I had somebody to love on BUT...
I would never EVER be with ANYBODY for the sake of being with somebody. I have more respect for myself then to just fling myself on the first person who will have me.
I don't care how sexy they are, what kind of car they drive, how long I've been with them, or how much money they have. If they aren't making me happy and I don't think we can work out, I will pack up my things and leave them reeeeaaaallll quick.
Life is too short to sell yourself short of what you really want and who you think really deserves to be with you. You should let NO ONE make you unhappy if you don't have to. I never understood that...why people stick around with somebody when it is obvious that you don't want to be with them anymore?
Are people that afraid of change that they'll stick with someone familiar just because they don't want to go out and try to find someone else? I mean...you'll literally put up with someone's crap just because they're "alright" to be with 1/4th of the time?
You're wasting precious time people! You aren't promised to wake up tomorrow morning. You might be 21 now but one morning you might wake up and realize you're 43 and spent most of your time under someone who doesn't really want you...
I'm 22 years old. I have my whole life ahead of me, hopefully. I cry myself to sleep at night cuddled into my pillow. I daydream most the day away thinking about how it would be to have somebody in my life again. I read Cosmopolitan magazines so I can stock up on sex tricks to use on my future somebody. And, in a nutshell, I am unhappy about being single. But...
I would never short change myself when it comes down to someone wanting to be my boyfriend. I'm not going to jump all over somebody just because they ask me out. I've made alot of mistakes in the past about who I gave my body up to because I really felt that I didn't deserve anybody. I even gave up the man I love most in life to someone else, on purpose, because I felt that I wasn't good enough for them.
I didn't feel like I was the right color, the right height, or the right weight to love them so I pushed him into the arms of another. And guess what...I regretted it EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE SINCE THAT DAY! So when the next one comes around, or if the old one decides to take me on, I'm going to make damn sure that I'm happy and that they are too!
Life is too short to be anything less then happy...I've wasted 20 1/2 years of my life being utterly unhappy and down on myself. Things aren't perfect for me yet but I'm seeing my future a whole lot clear-er then I ever did before I left for Texas. I'm NOT going to let myself down this time around!
And neither should anyone else who reads this...
So if you've taken the time to read this whole blog, please, sit down with yourself and really think about your relationship. Think about why you're with them and how things are. And don't kid yourself...if you can't say with a smile 90% of the time that you are happy to be with them...then maybe its time you need to start thinking about why you are so unhappy and if you need to get up out there.
Think about it...
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Simple Things You Can Do To Keep Friendships Strong!
Of lately, I've noticed alot of my friends, and myself included, are having problems with some of their friends not acting very friend-like. You know, friendships need their own kind of maintenance just like a relationship does! If you don't treat them right, they are just going to feel like you don't care for them as a friend and move on with their life. Here are a few simple tricks you can use to make a friend feel special without seeming like you are trying to be under their arm all the time.
1) When you call your friends house/cell phone and don't get an answer, don't hang up! Leave a voice message!
This is a great way to show that you really do care about your friend and it doesn't take any longer then a few moments out of your day. Just say in your voicemail that you were calling just to see how they were or because you wanted to chat with them about something. DON'T make it sound too serious and DON'T make it sound like you did it because you're bored. There is NOTHING worse then hearing someone say they called you up just because they're bored. That's makes them feel like they are a last resort on your list! You don't have to do it EVERY time you call their phone, but once or twice a month is okay.
2) If both you and your friend have a MySpace or other social site profile, leave them a message with something you think will make them laugh!
There is nothing better that screams, "You're my friend!" then logging into your profile and seeing that a friend of yours sent you a message with something they thought you would find funny. Seeing that you took the time out to send them something to make them smile will keep you on the top of their list.
3) Try hanging out a little more with them on a one-on-one bases
This one might seem like something you should do when you're in a relationship with somebody but it's also needed in friendships as well. When the only time your friend sees you is when you're out with a group of friends, they could feel more like an accessory for a good time then your actual friend. Having fun with your friend on a one-on-one bases will give them time to loosen up a bit more and not have to worry about social status. I mean, come on! EVERYONE feels more comfortable to make a joke or fart when it's just one other person around!
4) Ask them a deep question every once in a while
Again, this might seem like something you would do in a relationship but it works in friendships as well. Friends can feel like you are using them for shallow reasons if all you do is hang out and crack jokes. Everyone wants to have a friend that they can talk to about personal matters and get a serious answer from them. Asking them a deep question like "How do you feel about relationships?" or "What do you think about the economy situation going on?" shows them that they can be open about their thoughts and that you do care about them. Even if their answer isn't that long, trust me, they do appreciate the thought that went behind asking it.
5) Just drop by sometimes, unannounced
I'm not saying to do it 2 or 3 times a week but every once in a while, just stopping by their house without warning can show that you really want to hang with them. Most people like the spontaneous-ness of it and it makes hanging out that much more interesting while you figure out what to do. It also shows them that they were on your mind and that you really do think of them as fun. But, as I mention earlier, don't make it seem like you did it just because you had nothing better to do. That kind of spoils the special-ness of it.
6) If you can't afford a birthday gift, at least get them a birthday card/Getting them a belated birthday card/gift is acceptable and still appreciated!
Ok, this tip can apply to ANY major occasion in your friend's life. You can go out and buy a card from Dollar General/Family Dollar/Dollar Tree for 50 cents! I know ANYBODY can scrap up 50 cents if you try hard enough. Getting them a card shows them that even though you didn't have enough money to get them something really great, you wanted to give something to show that you appreciate, and care about, them. Make the card really special by writing a personal message on the inside. It doesn't even have to be a paragraph, just a few sentences can make a 50 cent card seem like gold to your friend.
Forgot? That's ok. On the day that you realize you missed the event, run out and get a card right away! Write a long message saying how much you're grateful for them being a friend and it should at least have the value of silver to your friend! Including the card with a gift will up the value to gold! *lol* But the next time around, make sure you do something extra special for them, or else it will look bad on you!
These tips are just basic guidelines! Everyone's friendships are different and should NEVER be treated the same as someone else's. Take these tips and edit them so they fit into your life and the lifestyle of your friendships and friends!
1) When you call your friends house/cell phone and don't get an answer, don't hang up! Leave a voice message!
This is a great way to show that you really do care about your friend and it doesn't take any longer then a few moments out of your day. Just say in your voicemail that you were calling just to see how they were or because you wanted to chat with them about something. DON'T make it sound too serious and DON'T make it sound like you did it because you're bored. There is NOTHING worse then hearing someone say they called you up just because they're bored. That's makes them feel like they are a last resort on your list! You don't have to do it EVERY time you call their phone, but once or twice a month is okay.
2) If both you and your friend have a MySpace or other social site profile, leave them a message with something you think will make them laugh!
There is nothing better that screams, "You're my friend!" then logging into your profile and seeing that a friend of yours sent you a message with something they thought you would find funny. Seeing that you took the time out to send them something to make them smile will keep you on the top of their list.
3) Try hanging out a little more with them on a one-on-one bases
This one might seem like something you should do when you're in a relationship with somebody but it's also needed in friendships as well. When the only time your friend sees you is when you're out with a group of friends, they could feel more like an accessory for a good time then your actual friend. Having fun with your friend on a one-on-one bases will give them time to loosen up a bit more and not have to worry about social status. I mean, come on! EVERYONE feels more comfortable to make a joke or fart when it's just one other person around!
4) Ask them a deep question every once in a while
Again, this might seem like something you would do in a relationship but it works in friendships as well. Friends can feel like you are using them for shallow reasons if all you do is hang out and crack jokes. Everyone wants to have a friend that they can talk to about personal matters and get a serious answer from them. Asking them a deep question like "How do you feel about relationships?" or "What do you think about the economy situation going on?" shows them that they can be open about their thoughts and that you do care about them. Even if their answer isn't that long, trust me, they do appreciate the thought that went behind asking it.
5) Just drop by sometimes, unannounced
I'm not saying to do it 2 or 3 times a week but every once in a while, just stopping by their house without warning can show that you really want to hang with them. Most people like the spontaneous-ness of it and it makes hanging out that much more interesting while you figure out what to do. It also shows them that they were on your mind and that you really do think of them as fun. But, as I mention earlier, don't make it seem like you did it just because you had nothing better to do. That kind of spoils the special-ness of it.
6) If you can't afford a birthday gift, at least get them a birthday card/Getting them a belated birthday card/gift is acceptable and still appreciated!
Ok, this tip can apply to ANY major occasion in your friend's life. You can go out and buy a card from Dollar General/Family Dollar/Dollar Tree for 50 cents! I know ANYBODY can scrap up 50 cents if you try hard enough. Getting them a card shows them that even though you didn't have enough money to get them something really great, you wanted to give something to show that you appreciate, and care about, them. Make the card really special by writing a personal message on the inside. It doesn't even have to be a paragraph, just a few sentences can make a 50 cent card seem like gold to your friend.
Forgot? That's ok. On the day that you realize you missed the event, run out and get a card right away! Write a long message saying how much you're grateful for them being a friend and it should at least have the value of silver to your friend! Including the card with a gift will up the value to gold! *lol* But the next time around, make sure you do something extra special for them, or else it will look bad on you!
These tips are just basic guidelines! Everyone's friendships are different and should NEVER be treated the same as someone else's. Take these tips and edit them so they fit into your life and the lifestyle of your friendships and friends!
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
What Is A Healthy Romantic Relationship?
One of my online buddies asked me about this the other day and it made me realize that not alot of people know the answer to it. It will be different for different people but the basics of it will be the same.
A healthy romantic relationship is about give and take, living, and growing. I know you are thinking, "That is so cliche" but hear me out for a minute. Being in a romantic relationship isn't about being with your partner all the time. In fact, a sign of an unhealthy relationship is being with your romantic partner ALL THE TIME! If you are with your girlfriend or boyfriend all the time, how can you appreciate them in the first place?
Couples need their separate alone time...if they don't get it then the relationship would just lose its luster. I'm not saying spend months or even weeks apart but at least spend a weekend or 2 a month away from your partner. And I'm talking about willing time apart. Counting the time you spend away from your partner because you are working or something along those lines DOES NOT COUNT! I know, at work you are probably missing your partner like crazy but trust me...being forcefully away from your partner isn't the same as willingly giving your partner space.
Having mutual time away from each other will give you something to look forward to when it IS time to be together. When you willingly spend time away from your partner, your mind is free to wonder and ponder, PLUS, it gives you time to do things that you need to get done. You can clean your house, finish up paperwork, think about future plans, and other things that when you're around the love of your life you just don't want to do because you want to spend all your time with them.
Another thing that most people don't realize is that the love of your life HAS to be your partner-in-crime in a sense. You guys have to have common ground or else, well, not to sound bitter or anything, it just ain't gonna last. And no amount of counseling or time apart is going to repair what was broken in the first place. If you are the kind of guy who likes to go out a couple of nights a week, loves to fish, and flop in front of your TV and play video games for long periods of time...you are going to need a girl who likes 2 out of 3 of those things. If you have a girlfriend who hates all 3 of the favorite things you like to do then...I'm pretty sure after a year or two, if the relationship lasts that long, you are going to either 1) grow bored of her or 2) grow annoyed with her. Both aren't good to feel towards your partner. This brings me to my next point...
Partners need to have a fair bit of common ground if you are going to be in a healthy relationship together but having EVERYTHING in common can be dangerous ground to walk on too. If you like all of the same things, it doesn't leave anywhere for you to grow together. You will fall into a cycle of same-ness it will leave you feeling uncomfortable and bored. You need something to thrive off of, need things to learn and new activities that you can try together. If you like football and your partner doesn't, you can have fun showing them the joys of it. If your partner likes art and it just isn't your thing, you can learn something by going with your partner to an art show. Having common interests yet having differences leads to giving and taking, which is essential to keeping the luster and life in a relationship!
If you are with your partner because of a materialistic reason, then you are staying in a relationship for ALL THE WRONG REASONS! Being with your partner because they have a job or a car isn't a good enough reason to be with someone. In fact, make a list of why you are with your partner and cross out anything that is physical or materialistic. Some examples: because they have a car, because they have a job, because they have money, because they give you a ride, because they give you stuff, because they are sexy, because they agree to do most of what you say, because they have big boobs, because they have a pretty smile, because they love you, ect. All these are NOT reasons to be with your partner.
You should want to be with your partner because they make you feel good, because they care about you, they help you better yourself, because you enjoy time with them. You should want to be with your partner because you feel that even if the relationship ended, you would still have a great friend and someone who will always be there for you, through thick or thin. Someone that you see in your life for a long time because of the simple fact that they help make life easier for you not because of the sex, car, or money but because they want to share life with you at an easy, encouraging pace.
You might be thinking right now that, with the way I'm talking, you should be thinking about marriage from the first date. NO, that is not what I'm saying. I can understand that there are people out there that AREN'T looking for forevers and always but something steady and enjoyable. Even if you only want something commit-full in the here and now, you still have to consider these possibilities. Relationships are like oceans, even when they are calm, you can still see and feel the changing of the tide and the movement of the water. If your relationship has stopped moving forward, if there isn't any more movement, not even a change in the tide then it is time for you two to go your separate ways.
A relationship should always be moving, changing, growing together yet growing individually as well. It should be something familiar yet always bring something new to the table every once in a while. There shouldn't be okay days, there should be great days. And yes, there will be bad days! EVERY relationship is going to have bad days and hard patches but you have to think about why the bad days are happening. If you only have a great day every month or even every week...then maybe the person you are with just isn't healthy for you.
In the end, these are only the basics and guidelines to a health romantic relationship. Everyone is different and everyone wants something different from the person they are with. Some people are just looking to fill the loneliness while others are looking for something that could be forever and always, with or without marriage.
I'm the kind of person that I could be in a relationship and not really take it personal if I was with that person for 7 years and still not heard "The Question". Now, mind you, if we've been together for 12 years we might as well get married because we have to be CRAZY about each other if we are still together that long in the state the world is in now a days. I want someone that I can sit down and play video games with one day and go out to a car show the next and then the next day just screw each other's brains out in bed. Maybe every once in a while I would want a romantic dinner at home or a walk on the beach or to go out on the town. I would be quite happy with my man working at McDonald's, as long as he is trying to move forward and take care of his responsibilities. I'm a simple kind of girl with a kinky, romantic twist on life.
Different strokes for different folks people but we all long for the same thing...something stable, healthy, and just for us. Think about it guys...really think about it and tell me what you think! I really want feedback on this one.
A healthy romantic relationship is about give and take, living, and growing. I know you are thinking, "That is so cliche" but hear me out for a minute. Being in a romantic relationship isn't about being with your partner all the time. In fact, a sign of an unhealthy relationship is being with your romantic partner ALL THE TIME! If you are with your girlfriend or boyfriend all the time, how can you appreciate them in the first place?
Couples need their separate alone time...if they don't get it then the relationship would just lose its luster. I'm not saying spend months or even weeks apart but at least spend a weekend or 2 a month away from your partner. And I'm talking about willing time apart. Counting the time you spend away from your partner because you are working or something along those lines DOES NOT COUNT! I know, at work you are probably missing your partner like crazy but trust me...being forcefully away from your partner isn't the same as willingly giving your partner space.
Having mutual time away from each other will give you something to look forward to when it IS time to be together. When you willingly spend time away from your partner, your mind is free to wonder and ponder, PLUS, it gives you time to do things that you need to get done. You can clean your house, finish up paperwork, think about future plans, and other things that when you're around the love of your life you just don't want to do because you want to spend all your time with them.
Another thing that most people don't realize is that the love of your life HAS to be your partner-in-crime in a sense. You guys have to have common ground or else, well, not to sound bitter or anything, it just ain't gonna last. And no amount of counseling or time apart is going to repair what was broken in the first place. If you are the kind of guy who likes to go out a couple of nights a week, loves to fish, and flop in front of your TV and play video games for long periods of time...you are going to need a girl who likes 2 out of 3 of those things. If you have a girlfriend who hates all 3 of the favorite things you like to do then...I'm pretty sure after a year or two, if the relationship lasts that long, you are going to either 1) grow bored of her or 2) grow annoyed with her. Both aren't good to feel towards your partner. This brings me to my next point...
Partners need to have a fair bit of common ground if you are going to be in a healthy relationship together but having EVERYTHING in common can be dangerous ground to walk on too. If you like all of the same things, it doesn't leave anywhere for you to grow together. You will fall into a cycle of same-ness it will leave you feeling uncomfortable and bored. You need something to thrive off of, need things to learn and new activities that you can try together. If you like football and your partner doesn't, you can have fun showing them the joys of it. If your partner likes art and it just isn't your thing, you can learn something by going with your partner to an art show. Having common interests yet having differences leads to giving and taking, which is essential to keeping the luster and life in a relationship!
If you are with your partner because of a materialistic reason, then you are staying in a relationship for ALL THE WRONG REASONS! Being with your partner because they have a job or a car isn't a good enough reason to be with someone. In fact, make a list of why you are with your partner and cross out anything that is physical or materialistic. Some examples: because they have a car, because they have a job, because they have money, because they give you a ride, because they give you stuff, because they are sexy, because they agree to do most of what you say, because they have big boobs, because they have a pretty smile, because they love you, ect. All these are NOT reasons to be with your partner.
You should want to be with your partner because they make you feel good, because they care about you, they help you better yourself, because you enjoy time with them. You should want to be with your partner because you feel that even if the relationship ended, you would still have a great friend and someone who will always be there for you, through thick or thin. Someone that you see in your life for a long time because of the simple fact that they help make life easier for you not because of the sex, car, or money but because they want to share life with you at an easy, encouraging pace.
You might be thinking right now that, with the way I'm talking, you should be thinking about marriage from the first date. NO, that is not what I'm saying. I can understand that there are people out there that AREN'T looking for forevers and always but something steady and enjoyable. Even if you only want something commit-full in the here and now, you still have to consider these possibilities. Relationships are like oceans, even when they are calm, you can still see and feel the changing of the tide and the movement of the water. If your relationship has stopped moving forward, if there isn't any more movement, not even a change in the tide then it is time for you two to go your separate ways.
A relationship should always be moving, changing, growing together yet growing individually as well. It should be something familiar yet always bring something new to the table every once in a while. There shouldn't be okay days, there should be great days. And yes, there will be bad days! EVERY relationship is going to have bad days and hard patches but you have to think about why the bad days are happening. If you only have a great day every month or even every week...then maybe the person you are with just isn't healthy for you.
In the end, these are only the basics and guidelines to a health romantic relationship. Everyone is different and everyone wants something different from the person they are with. Some people are just looking to fill the loneliness while others are looking for something that could be forever and always, with or without marriage.
I'm the kind of person that I could be in a relationship and not really take it personal if I was with that person for 7 years and still not heard "The Question". Now, mind you, if we've been together for 12 years we might as well get married because we have to be CRAZY about each other if we are still together that long in the state the world is in now a days. I want someone that I can sit down and play video games with one day and go out to a car show the next and then the next day just screw each other's brains out in bed. Maybe every once in a while I would want a romantic dinner at home or a walk on the beach or to go out on the town. I would be quite happy with my man working at McDonald's, as long as he is trying to move forward and take care of his responsibilities. I'm a simple kind of girl with a kinky, romantic twist on life.
Different strokes for different folks people but we all long for the same thing...something stable, healthy, and just for us. Think about it guys...really think about it and tell me what you think! I really want feedback on this one.
What Is Sensually Unlimited?
Hi, my name is Eboni Shante' AKA D.A. Athren. I'm 22 years old and have been called by my friends at times "an unlicensed sex therapist with a twist of relationship counselling". *lol* I'm painfully single but I've been in a lot of deep commitments and lost greatly during the little time that I've been on this earth. I decided, since my advice has helped so many people, both young and old, solve their problems, with friends and lovers, that I should put it up for the whole world to see.
So... now it all boils down to what this is! "Sensually Unlimited" is a blog about everything you need to know about modern day commitments both friendship and relationship wise. The times have changed SO much that even the most simple of rules to keeping good tidings with others aren't taught any more or people have just lost sight of them in the swell of vanity and selfishness that society (the media) has projected out.
"Sensually Unlimited" will touch base with these simple principles and turn them around to accommodate the changing wave of society. You'll find EVERYTHING here from basic relationship and friendship guides to sexual encounters 101. You might read one day about how to keep the intimacy in your relationship and then the very next day read about how you can make sure your best friend feels appreciated! You'll find updated first date plans to ways to make a friends' night out affordable for the crunched wallet. And guys, you'll even find easy-to-make-get-them-to-say-"Oh My God!" recipes for if you really wanna impress that lucky someone. These recipes are soooo simple that even an 11 year old could do it without setting the house on fire!
This place will be your Wal-Mart of information about anything and EVERYTHING involving another person. I SOOO look forward to meeting you all and helping you make the most out of life!
So... now it all boils down to what this is! "Sensually Unlimited" is a blog about everything you need to know about modern day commitments both friendship and relationship wise. The times have changed SO much that even the most simple of rules to keeping good tidings with others aren't taught any more or people have just lost sight of them in the swell of vanity and selfishness that society (the media) has projected out.
"Sensually Unlimited" will touch base with these simple principles and turn them around to accommodate the changing wave of society. You'll find EVERYTHING here from basic relationship and friendship guides to sexual encounters 101. You might read one day about how to keep the intimacy in your relationship and then the very next day read about how you can make sure your best friend feels appreciated! You'll find updated first date plans to ways to make a friends' night out affordable for the crunched wallet. And guys, you'll even find easy-to-make-get-them-to-say-"Oh My God!" recipes for if you really wanna impress that lucky someone. These recipes are soooo simple that even an 11 year old could do it without setting the house on fire!
This place will be your Wal-Mart of information about anything and EVERYTHING involving another person. I SOOO look forward to meeting you all and helping you make the most out of life!
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